There is so much talk around “Mindset” these days – which is great. It’s really an essential part of life. Especially if you have a business or are starting something new.
But you’ve probably noticed that you can’t suddenly “fix it” with the snap of a finger. Which begs the questions – what do you do NOW?
Good question! And good thing you’re here –> Because I have some ideas for you.
But first … I feel like I want to share something that’s really personal to me and took me a long time to learn.
–> Confidence and positivity are fleeting
It comes, it goes…
…and overtime as you start seeing more good than bad and prove that you can do things you never thought you could, things slowly start to change inside of you!
You will start to notice that confidence and positivity start taking up a bigger and bigger part in your heart and mind.
But, it takes time!
Experts in this area agree that changing our mindset takes consistent work.
Personally, I think therapy is an essential.
But a lot of people will also recommend journaling, tapping, exercise, meditation, affirmations, and reading.
Those are all good things!
But I have found them to be hard to get right. And when I’m at my worst, they aggravate the problem.
What do you do when you need a quicker way to cope? For example…
- you don’t have the time or energy
- you’re so negative or anxious those things make it worse
- you can’t talk to your therapist or coach IN the moment.
Here are some of my theories on why those things might not work
If you have ADHD or are an ideas-person or creative-thinker your brain and body thrive when you’re brain is in action and feeling inspired.
This is the dopamine kick that keeps us going!
But at the same time, too much can leave us feeling mentally and emotionally pooped out.
AND to be healthy and happy the ability to stop our brains is a must.
…Especially when you’re in a negative or anxious cycle.
What I have experienced is that I need to “trip-the-circuit” in a way that works with how our mind works.
- Not by chanting affirmations you don’t believe
- Not by spending 1/2 of your meditating time soothing the anxiety you have about not being able to slow your mind
- Not by journaling your negative thoughts away (talk about focusing on the negative)
- Not by going to the gym for a 1 or 2 hour workout
Again – These are all great! I think there should be a place for these in all of our lives.
But what do you do when they don’t work for you? Or … you don’t have time to get them to work for you?
Here are a Few Things That I’ve Learned Work For Me
The things I’m sharing below are things I do as I work to fix my mindset in the long-term.
They are ideas that I’ve come up with on my own, or have learned from others.
Idea 1: Do WordSearch Puzzles
I know. It seems a little crazy. I totally wrote these off as a thing my mom did. But hear me out … I’m not talking about just any WordSearch puzzles > I’m talking about POSITIVITY WordSearch puzzles.
They have this magical ability to stop the chatter and voices of anxiety.
I have also found that focused energy on this simple task quiets my mind. And focusing my mind on lovely, positive words makes me feel calm and uplifed too.
Plus, I get a quick little win every time I find a word or finish a puzzle. And wins are a really big part of confidence-building.
So seriously – if you are an ideas-person or creative-thinker and find that some of the mindset things you’re doing aren’t helping give this a try. It is seriously reframing my brain a little bit everyday!
>>>> Go here to get them free.
Here’s how I discovered this.
…. I bought a box set of “happy” wordsearch puzzles for my mom this Christmas.
I was so excited to give it to her! But when she opened up the box and we looked inside we were both SO bumbed out!
The words were not happy words at all.
Unless you think things like ladder or roof are happy.
So… being me I created them for her. And in doing so, my life was changed more than hers.
Idea 2: Do Jumping Jacks
If you have a lot of mental and physical energy exercise is something that helps us a lot.
But, if you’re anything like me you just can’t fit it into your life all the time.
And even when you do, it’s not exactly going to do you any good mid-day when you have 2 minutes to spare but NEEEEEEEED to get that excess energy out of you or else ….
Doing a few jumping jacks is an insanely awesome way to boost your energy, reduce stress, and get that dopamine flowing in just a few minutes!
I got this idea from Renee Hribar when I interviewed her on my summit in Spring 2019.
Idea 3: Add a Few Items To A Pinterest Vision Board
I know I know. I thought Pinterest Vision boards were for amateurs.
Here’s what I learned though. >>> When you’re creative and thrive on ideas you need to be creative and doing stuff with ideas.
… ha… I didn’t say these ideas were going to be rocket science.
Seriously though. It helps! And it doesn’t have to be big-creativity or complex-ideas (because that might be what’s stressing you out). For these purposes, it probably shouldn’t be.
BUT something that’s visual and fun is a great way to trick to brain the into slowing doing and cheering up.
A vision board gets you into that positive head-space and can really help you press pause on any negative or anxious thoughts.
Idea 4: GO AWAY!
Go out for a walk, go to a coffee shop, or run an errand that needs to be done anyways.
I have found this helps me shift gears every time!
When I get back home I’m usually ready to rock-and -roll all over again.
This is a great option whether you walk or drive. But if some of your errands are in walking distance even better!
Idea 5: Don’t give up!
This is a suggestion if fear or insecurity paralyzes you.
Part of what makes the Positivity Wordsearch Puzzles work well is the fact that you get a quick win.
But… you need to do that on a bigger scale too! Basically, everytime you do something you didn’t think you could you’re proving to yourself that you CAN!
It’s the one thing no one ever told me growing up, and it’s probably the best piece of advice I ever got!
…. Think about it! I bet you felt like a superstar the last time you did something awesome.
So when something starts getting hard don’t give up!
Take a step away. But push through it even if you need to get some help!
I hope you feel less alone and like you have a simple option to help you through the rough moments in your days. Definitely grab the WordSearch Puzzles. Then look for a word or two whenever your brain needs to shift gears or you need to stop some chatter.
Start that Vision Board and add a picture or two to it as a break from the insane!
Do 10 jumping jacks
Leave the house or office for a little bit.
Stop for now. But don’t give up. Just take a break.
Accept that you’ll never reach a point where “poof! – You’re suddenly confident and happy 24/7”. BUT you will be MORE confident and happy more often…
And keep your eyes peeled for something called the “Inspiration Advantage”. I’m putting together whole theory on this and can’t wait to share it with you. It’s going to change everything! It’s coming in the summer of 2020.