There is so much talk around “Mindset” these days – which is great. It’s really an essential part of life. Especially if you have a business or starting something new.
But you’ve probably noticed that you can’t suddenly “fix it” with the snap of a finger. Which begs the questions – what do you do NOW?
How do you grow your dream when deep down you feel like pretty crummy?
Good question! And good thing you’re here, because I have some answers for you!
The biggest thing I have learned is that confidence and positivity is fleeting.
It comes, it goes…. and over-time as you prove that you can do things you never thought you could, both confidence and positivity start taking up a bigger and bigger part in your heart and mind.
It takes work! And if you’ve done any at all, you have probably started to see that that maybe life and you don’t suck as much as you thought.
Even though your head is almost caught up, your heart probably has a ways to go. And, in my experience, this never really ends.
Dealing with anxiety, especially when it’s by the two elephants in the room – money and confidence/imposter syndrome – is a daily struggle.
If you’ve had therapy or coaching, or have read books about mindset some of your activities will revolve around journalling, tapping, meditation, affirmations, and reading… among other things.
But this post isn’t about all the things you’ve heard about and are probably already doing.
I’m not saying NOT to do those things.
You really should! I’m just saying that if they don’t jive with you or you’ve tried and they’re not working then maybe it’s time to try something else as well.
Here are some of My Theories On why Those things might not be working All The Time…
If you’re an ideas-person, creative-thinker, or a purpose-driven entrepreneur you (your body and/or brain) probably thrive when they’re in in-action and when you’re inspired by what you’re doing.
But, to be healthy and happy, I really do believe that we need to stop ours brain for at least a little bit.
…. especially when you’re in a negative or anxious cycle.
Basically, what I have found is that you need to “trip-the-circuit”. But you need to do it in a way that works with how your mind works.
…Not by chanting affirmations you don’t believe, spending 1/2 of your meditating time soothing your anxiety about not being able to slow your mind, journalling your negative thoughts away, or going to the gym for a 1 or 2 hour workout.
Again – These are all great and I think there should be a place for these in all of our lives. But sometimes those things can make you focus on the issues even more.
So what do you do instead?
Here are a Few Things I have Found Work
The things I’m sharing below are things I’ve actually created to help myself mid-day. The things I mentioned above are usually things I do in the morning or at night before bed.
Idea 1: Do WordSearch Puzzles
I know. It seems a little crazy. I totally wrote these off as a thing my mom did. But hear me out … I’m not talking about just any WordSearch puzzles > I’m talking about POSITIVITY WordSearch puzzles.
They have this magical ability to stop the chatter and voices of anxiety.
I have also found that focused energy on this simple task quiets my mind. And focusing my mind on lovely, positive words makes me feel calm and uplifed too.
Plus, I get a quick little win every time I find a word or finish a puzzle. And wins are a really big part of confidence-building.
So seriously – if you are an ideas-person or creative-thinker and find that some of the mindset things you’re doing aren’t helping give this a try. It is seriously reframing my brain a little bit everyday!
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Here’s how I discovered this.
…. I bought a box set of “happy” wordsearch puzzles for my mom this Christmas. I was so excited to give it to her and cannot tell you how bummed we were when the words were not happy words. Unless you think things like ladder or roof are happy.
So… being me I created them for her. And in doing so, my life was changed more than hers.
Idea 2: Do Jumping Jacks.
If you have a lot of mental and physical energy exercise is something that helps us a lot.
But, if you’re anything like me you just can’t fit it into your life all the time. And even when you do, it’s not exactly going to do you any good mid-day when you have 2 minutes to spare but NEEEEEEEED to get that excess energy out of you or else ….
Doing a few jumping jacks is an insanely awesome way to lift your energy, reduce stress, and get that dopamine flowing in just a few minutes!
Idea 3: Add a Few Items To A Pinterest Vision Board
I know I know. I thought Pinterest Vision boards were for amateurs.
Here’s what I learned though. When you’re creative and thrive on ideas you need to be creative and doing stuff with ideas. Not necessarily big-creativity or complex-ideas (because that might be what’s stressing you out). BUT something, ANYTHING that’s visual and fun is a great way to trick to brain into slowing doing and cheering up.
A vision board gets you into that positive head-space and can really help you press pause on any negative thoughts.
Idea 4: GO AWAY!
Go out for a walk, go to a coffee shop, or run an errand that needs to be done anyways. I have found this helps me shift gears. When I get back home I’m usually ready to rock-and -roll all over again.
This is a great option whether you walk or drive. But if some of your errands are in walking distance, even better!
Idea 5: Don’t give up!
This is a suggestion if fear or insecurity paralyzes you.
Part of what makes the Positivity Wordsearch Puzzles work well is the fact that you get a quick win.
But… you need to do that on a bigger scale too! Basically, everytime you do something you didn’t think you could you’re proving to yourself that you CAN!
It’s the one thing no one ever told me growing up, and it’s probably the best piece of advice I ever got!
…. Think about it! I bet you feel like a superstar the last time you did something awesome.
I hope you feel less alone and like you have a simple option to help you through the rough moments in your days.
- Definitely grab the WordSearch Puzzles. Then look for a word or two whenever your brain needs to shift gears or you need to stop some chatter.
- Start that Vision Board and add a picture or two to it as a break from the insane!
- Do 10 jumping jacks
- Stop now, but don’t give!
- … Accept that you’ll never reach a point where “poof! – You’re suddenly confident and happy 24/7”. BUT you will be MORE confident and happy more often…
And keep your eyes peeled for something called the “Inspiration Advantage”. I’m putting together whole theory on this and can’t wait to share it with you. It’s going to change everything! It’s coming in the summer of 2020.