I Bet You Have An Awesome Talent That You’re Totally Sucking At!

We all have a lot of gifts. Some of them come in handy in our businesses and some of them really aren’t that useful – like… does it really help me in business that I’m really good at making my cat purr. Nope… not really.

But, one of my gifts COULD have been awesome, but I’ve basically sucked at it my whole life.

The first time I should have seen it was a few years after I graduated from Fashion Marketing school.

In our last year we were given a project to design socks for a McGregor socks competition. At the time I had a bit of weird of sock fetish and I wanted to draw on it…and was super excited!

My sock fetish was something I shared with my dad – we had a thing for what we jokingly called “Sexy Socks”.

…Don’t get grossed out – they weren’t “Sexy”. They were basically colorful socks or socks with fun patterns.

We see these all over the place now, but this was before the funky sock trend so they weren’t easy to find back then.

It was a time when boring professional attire was still the norm and personalties weren’t exactly accepted in regular office environments. I had already been introduced to it, and hated it so was pretty excited about my concept!

“When the day gets rough… just lift up your slacks and smile”.

I thought it was clever. And I remember going to the big gallery night, drinking champagne and looking at all the other boring sock submissions and feeling like the win was in the bag for me!

I could barely talk to anyone that night I was so excited. And I remember when they were announcing the winner I could barely stand still, my heart was pounding, and I was so nervous I was shivering! (Have you ever felt that way?).

When the winner ended up being beige-sock girl to say I was shocked and disappointed was an understatement.

I downed my drink. Looked at my friend who was looking back at me rather awkwardly, and put on a happy face. I laughed about it with her, congratulated beige sock girl, and pretended to enjoy the rest of the party.

When it was all done, I walked back to my apartment as fast I could and vegged in front of the TV for a million hours with a big bag of plain Ruffles Chips and Oreo ice cream.

I tried to figure out what happened but to be honest, I didn’t understand.

My socks WERE better. But I think I was the only one who saw that which was proven when I got my grade.
– 66%.

I was so annoyed that my teacher didn’t get it either. I thought he was cool! But either he wasn’t, or I was totally off my nut!

I moved on and forgot about it until a couple years later when the real kick in the butt came!

McGregor had a major shift in the design of its socks. Suddenly they were all about the funky!

I was annoyed, but at the same time I felt vindicated.

And I have had this sort of thing happen to me TONS of time before and after too! Not just in fashion, but in everything. Like too many times to count.

  1. I wanted to start a video course about 10 years ago. Someone “smarter” basically laughed at me and said “Who’d ever want to learn that online? That’s only an in-person thing.”.
  2. Last year I was all about the market research and creating a marketing plan. And, as usual I wanted to talk to someone smarter and he was like “no one wants that“.
  3. 15 years ago I was creating a story around my brand and someone told me that no one cares about that – “Stop being frivolous. Grow up“. All they care about is what it does for them.

I bet you’ve noticed similar things too!

The reason I’m sharing this is because I think we all have gifts and talents that we struggle with sharing with the world. Things that we brush to the side because someone that we think is smarter, better, or more successful tells us we’re crazy.

And I don’t want to sugar-coat this, because I get that this is a complicated topic – a lot of us DO have idiotic ideas sometimes.

But, I think that looking at the trends is a pretty simple way to be able to be able determine what your gifts are.

For me, finding opportunity where others only see obstacles is one. So is sensing what people need and want.

What about you? What are some of the gifts you have, that you’ve been sucking at?

What Now?

Are you wondering how to find your gifts that you’re not putting to use?

In addition to looking at trends (which we do in my coaching programs) I found that personality tests helped me a lot. I’m planning on adding this to my program because it helps you recognized trends that you might be (and probably are) overlooking.

Just make sure that when you answer the questions you answer them based on you at your best – not you when you’re feeling down (because depressed-you is not YOU).

And ask me about my program too. In it, I help you get clear about who you can help the most, and how you can show up as YOU.